decided

能夠結識到一個智同道合的朋友不易，能夠結識到一個智同道合而思想無異的朋友更不易，能夠結識到一個智同道合思想無異的酒肉朋友更難。臨別秋歌，他贈我一個字「decided」。If you want to have something, you have to reject something.